Friday, January 14, 2005

Elsewhere, Elsewhen

Could we go to a place
where all is sublime --
Somewhere... someway.... sometime?
A place where your eyes find beauty
And all our hearts see is kind

Where the coffee is always the perfect cup
And the latte is smooth & cool
Where conversation never lags
Where chance leaves you never the fool

I wouldn't want to stay there
Only visit now & again
I'll invite you along to be there with me
Before the beginning & after the end

And any time fate tweaks us wrong
We could offer one to another a hand
Extended in hope, strengthened by trust
"Yes, I'll meet you -- Elsewhere, Elsewhen."


Blogger Spike said...

Blinded by yourself in a intense lovers rage. Twasnt I who bound you to that cage.

Sunday, January 16, 2005 10:22:00 PM  
Blogger Cinnabar1 said...

When one experiences cyberspace as this extension of one's mind - as a transitional space between self and other - the door is thrown wide open for all sorts of fantasies and transference reactions to be projected into this space. Under ideal conditions, people use this as an opportunity to better understand themselves, as a path for exploring their identity as it engages the identity of other people. Under less than optimal conditions, people use this psychological space to simply vent or act out their fantasies and the frustrations, anxieties, and desires that fuel those fantasies.
..... There are two basic ways the internet tends to create division in one's life and identity. First, people tend to separate their online lives from their offline lives. You may have online companions, groups, and activities that are quite distinct from those you have in the face-to-face world.

Online Transference Reactions

One of the effects of online disinhibition may be the enhancement of transference reactions. The psychoanalytic concept of transference is especially important for understanding online relationships. Because the experience of the other person often is limited to text, there is a tendency for the user to project a variety of wishes, fantasies, and fears onto the ambiguous figure at the other end of cyberspace. The "blending" of one's mind with the other, as some users describe the experience of relating in cyberspace, may reflect this transference process. In fact, some users describe this blending of mind with the computer itself. Transference to the computer and to other users may interact in very subtle, complex ways. As one avid cybernaut once told me, "wherever I go on the internet, I discover myself."
Unconscious motivations related to the transference will also affect the "filtering" process that determines the choices the user makes in establishing relationships. Users may be surprised to find that the close friends they make online all seem to be the same types of people, even though this was not immediately obvious at the start of the relationship. This unconscious "homing" device can be very sensitive. Even when communicating only via text and in cumbersome or distracting online environments, we nevertheless zoom in on relationships that touch some hidden need within us.

When people exchange photos, call on the telephone, or finally meet the other, they are often surprised at how the real person does not always match the image they had developed in their mind. Meeting face-to-face challenges and reshapes the transference reactions.

....As a general rule, the integrating of online and offline living and of the various sectors of one's internet activities is a good idea. Why? Integration - like commerce - creates synergy. It leads to development and prosperity. Both sides of the trade are enriched by the exchange. If the goal of life is to know thyself, as Socrates suggested, then it must entail knowing how the various elements of thyself fit together to make that Big Self that is you. Reaching that goal also means understanding and taking down the barriers between the sectors of self. Barriers are erected out of the need to protect, out of fear. Those anxieties too are a component of one's identity. They need to be reclaimed, tamed.

((excerpts borrowed from: ))

Monday, January 17, 2005 2:05:00 AM  

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